Relationship Therapy
““Love is an act of will—namely, both an intention and an action.”
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Relationship Therapy
Relationships can be places of connection, belonging, pleasure, and healing. They can also bring us face-to-face with some of our oldest patterns, fears, and ways of protecting ourselves.
Maybe you love each other deeply but keep having the same fight. One person reaches for connection while another pulls away. Someone shuts down, gets louder, overexplains, or tries to make everything okay. You know the pattern isn't working, but you aren't sure how to do something different.
Relationship therapy offers a place to slow down and understand what is happening between you—not determine who is the problem. I work with couples, polycules, and people navigating consensual non-monogamy and other relationship structures. I particularly enjoy working with queer, trans, gender-expansive, and neurodivergent relationships.
Understanding Your Patterns
Together, we'll explore the patterns that emerge in your relationship and what may be underneath them. We can pay attention to attachment, nervous system responses, communication, needs, boundaries, power, and the ways past experiences show up in present relationships.
The goal isn't to avoid conflict or activation. It's to develop greater awareness and more choice in how you respond to each other.
Rupture & Repair
Healthy relationships aren't relationships without conflict. We misunderstand each other, miss moments of connection, become defensive, and sometimes hurt people we care about.
What matters is what happens next.
Therapy can help you learn to recognize your patterns, communicate your experience, understand impact, stay connected to yourself during conflict, and develop greater capacity for repair.
You might come to therapy because you're navigating communication, recurring conflict, intimacy, trust, boundaries, jealousy, trauma, changing relationship structures, identity, or simply wanting to understand one another more deeply.
The goal isn't to create a “right” relationship. It's to help you build relationships with more choice, authenticity, accountability, connection, and room to be yourselves.